Every relationship is bound to experience frictions at certain points.
These frictions are usually triggered by either one or both parties involved.
Most often than not, moving past a disagreement in a relationship stems from an apology.
But even apologies, as much as they resolve conflicts, can worsen a situation if not done appropriately.
The following steps will guarantee your apology is accepted by that special someone:
Acknowledge you’re wrong
The first step in apologising is acknowledgement. It has to be clear to you that you are wrong and that your partner’s happiness is above your ego.
It is important to assess the situation as objectively as possible. How did you go wrong, what changes do you plan on making in the future concerning similar situations?
In the long run, the way we handle relationships speaks more about the kind of people we are. Learn from mistakes and be a better version of yourself.
Think your apology through
As tough as apologies can be, it is important to plan and draft out how exactly you want to say ‘I’m sorry’. Despite the heightened emotions, take a deep breath and plan out when, where and how you are going to apologise.
Make sure to factor in your partner’s preferences when planning an apology. Do they feel more comfortable with this type of conversation indoor or outdoor?
It’s not about you, and understanding this will guide you through your planning.
Apologise with a grand but sincere gesture
The best way to apologise is to be sincere. Your sincerity may not be immediately favoured by your partner but in the long run, honesty always pays off for both of you.
Avoid exaggerating your intentions while apologising to ‘make things better’. Keep it real and simple.
Grand gestures do not necessarily mean apologising with a N50m car. Making grand gestures could mean an undertaking to go out of your way to please your partner or a significant sacrifice.
Don’t play the blame game
Never try to play the blame game or bring up past wrongdoings of your partner against you. It not only is childish but insensitive in the present situation.
Remember that apologising doesn’t always mean you are at fault but that you value your relationship enough to swallow your pride, eat the humble pie and say ‘I’m sorry’.