Why Do Men Really Cheat? This are the Top 4 Reasons Why Men Cheat .

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I am not writing about this topic to be controversial, accusatory or boastful. I’m writing to let women like you know that in most cases his cheating has less to do with you, your ability, desire to maintain the relationship, and more to do with him, his own deficiencies and inability to communicate.

On a side note, I have heard other men and surprisingly some women argue that his cheating is due to her ‘letting herself go physically’. If she would just get back into shape, he would be more attracted to her again. This is a RIDICULOUS argument. It places all the blame and responsibility on her and releases him any responsibility.

As if her only obligation in life is to be eye candy and work out seven days a week — give me a break. Most likely, he has put on a few pounds too and has no room to talk about her physical appearance. While her physical appearance or his lack of sexual attraction may be a factor, it is rarely the ONLY reason men cheat.

Ok, so now you are asking why do men REALLY cheat? If it has less to do with her and more to do with him, then what is the problem? Below, I have listed four reasons or patterns of behavior that explain why men may still cheat as opposed to simply addressing the issues within their own relationship:

1. Men are poor communicators in relationships.

He’s an Ace in many areas, but when it comes to understanding his own feelings and then effectively communicating his feelings with you, he gets an F. If he wants more couple time, sex or spice in the relationship, chances are he’ll try to talk to you about it a few times, but he will quickly loose patience, become resentful, and justify having to go outside the
relationship.

2. Men have affairs due to their own insecurities.

I have met many men that have shared with me that they love their wife/girlfriend and the life they have together. They have a great relationship, she is gorgeous and they have a
great sex life — yet he STILL sees other women. In this case, his cheating has nothing to do with you and everything to do with the 6 inches between his head. He feels insecure in one away or another and needs to prove to himself that ‘he’s still got it’ by seeing other women.

3. Men try to avoid conflict in a relationship.

Conflict avoidance is another example of his inability or unwillingness to communicate.
Rather than discussing his feeling or needs with you, he’ll choose not to ‘rock the boat’ and
instead dodge uncomfortable discussions, questions or hurt feelings and simply seek out
another women to compensate for what he feels is missing in your relationship.

4. Men look for the path of least resistance.

From his perspective, it makes little sense to upset you or your relationship by bringing up
heated topics. After all, he has to live with you and deal with any negative ramifications for
days or weeks. He rationalizes that instead, he can find a physical relationship on the side to get the small piece of what he’s missing in his real relationship.

In his mind this is a win-win. He remains happy because you’re happy and unaware that there is a problem. Life is good and continues on as usual. The fact is he’d RATHER be getting everything he needs emotionally and sexually from YOU. I promise — he doesn’t want to outsource his physical and emotional needs to someone else.

What he really wants is to have the romantic and meaningful sex life the two of you had when you first met. Unfortunately, if he thinks something is missing in your relationship, he doesn’t always know how to talk to you about it without hurting your feelings and causing conflict.

As a woman you need to be proactive and discuss the relationship with him to determine if both of you are getting what you need. If he feels like he can be open and honest about his feelings and desires, he is much less likely to feel justified in having an affair. I hope this article has been helpful in decoding the man in your life.

We all know relationships are a two way street and it takes two to maintain the relationship. Having a better understanding of how he thinks and communicates (or in this case doesn’t communicate), is just one more tool to help you protect your relationship and life together.

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Hi,my name is Obinna Nwala; Founder of Henzyworld.com,I am a Life Coach an IT and Relationship Expert with so much passion in adding positively to people's life and i love solving people's problem within my maximum capacity. From my experiences in life i have come to understand that most people suffer a lot of relationships and life problems which makes them frustrated but Henzyworld is a blog to get inspired where your problems will be solved and where you get latest gist around your environment.

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