5 Top Steps to Overcome the Consequences of Infidelity in Your Marriage

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Infidelity in relationships and marriages has always been a tug of war for many couples who are affected by the act. Some marriages are destroyed by infidelity. While the damage may be irreparable, fortunately, this is not always the case. Some couples are willing to commit the time and effort to save their relationship. Recovery after cheating isn’t easy, but it can be done if both parties are willing to make reconciliation a priority. I have top five steps you can follow if you really want to overcome the consequences of infidelity.

Step 1

Decide whether you are willing to continue with the marriage if your spouse agrees to stop the infidelity. You must be able to forgive the cheating if your partner is willing to break off the affair and take steps to ensure it never happens again. This means you cannot bring it up every time you have a fight or hold it over your spouse’s head whenever you get upset.

Step 2

Confront your spouse about the cheating. Focus on facts so your partner won’t automatically go on the defensive. Own your feelings with statements like, “I feel hurt and betrayed,” instead of making judgments like, “You are a total jerk,” which will quickly shut the conversation down.

Step 3

Agree to a time-out period, if needed. You will need to focus a lot of time and energy on repair efforts if your partner agrees to try to salvage the marriage. Emotions will initially run high, so it may be helpful to give each other some space before starting the hard work. Agree on a mutually acceptable time period — such as a week or two — that will allow you both to approach the situation more rationally.

Step 4

Make mutual goals. Both you and your partner will benefit from focusing on reasons to salvage the marriage. Your goals might involve your children, future financial or retirement plans or anything else that binds you together in a positive way.

Step 5

Set up marriage counseling sessions to help you both create and implement a plan to repair the marriage. A counselor gives an unbiased viewpoint and helps you and your spouse identify factors that led to the infidelity, find other potential issues in the marriage and create strategies to strengthen your relationship.

I have no doubt that if this steps is followed, the consequences of infidelity can be overcome in your marriage. There is always a repentance after given a chance of forgiveness, if both of you fight to be together to sustain the love you once had before the act.

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Hi,my name is Obinna Nwala; Founder of Henzyworld.com,I am a Life Coach an IT and Relationship Expert with so much passion in adding positively to people's life and i love solving people's problem within my maximum capacity. From my experiences in life i have come to understand that most people suffer a lot of relationships and life problems which makes them frustrated but Henzyworld is a blog to get inspired where your problems will be solved and where you get latest gist around your environment.

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