When you met your partner it was a day you will never forget,a memorable day,both of you were drawn together for many reasons–physical attraction, common interests, religion,class,presentable and more. For weeks and maybe months, the two of you got better acquainted, got closer, and everything looked positive and good.
But now you’ve started to sense and pick up small clues that he or she is losing interest and you keep wondering what’s wrong? what both of you used to share is no more there,is this love fading? That person might be backing away from the relationship or looking for a change. If you are left wondering what to do, Check out this:
1. Resist the urge to be a mind reader.
You might want to read into every little comment or gesture to gauge your partner’s interest level, but you can’t know for sure what’s going on inside another person’s head. Even if you are psychologist but you can guess.
2. Consider if this is a period of temporary confusion.
Emotions are fickle, and every relationship goes through ups and downs. This might be a matter of short-term uncertainty while evaluating feelings and your future together.
3. Try fanning the flames.
Maybe the relationship has grown a bit stale and predictable. An infusion of excitement and freshness might bring sparks back, think of something new to add to the relationship. Do not be Dormant in action, Relationship is a process of nurturing the things that binds both of you together.
4. Beware of overreacting.
When a lover starts to feel distant, it can trigger all of our insecurities. Emotional upheavals and dramatic scenes will confuse matters even more, So try to be calm in action be tolerant. You never can tell your partner may value a little time apart to think things through.
5. Determine how long you are willing to put up with uncertainty.
It’s up to you to pinpoint how long you’re willing to wait and see if the other person is really losing interest. But do not be in a haste because some of us are not patient and we all wants things done in our way and time. Just give a considerable time.
6. Be careful not to become overly responsible.
Choose not to feel as if you have done something wrong or that it’s up to you to “fix” the situation, just be neutral to know what’s the main problem before you think of what to do or apologize for what you didn’t commit.
7. Back off.
See what happens when you intentionally allow for space. Your partner just might regain interest. This true because our time to be together with theirs may be different, we can try to give them space.
8. Don’t play games or manipulate.
You might want to show your partner that you’re losing interest too—just to make a point–but ploys are never healthy and never resolve anything.
9. Ask direct questions.
If you suspect someone is losing interest, remember that you are entitled to an honest response.
10. Seek clarity.
You can say, “I’m not sure where you’re at emotionally right now. Please enlighten me.” But do not be offended if He or She did not open up freely at that moment.
11. Re-assess your own level of interest.
It’s possible that the relationship is cooling off, and you’ve both been staving off an inevitable breakup.
12. Remember that you can’t control how another person feels.
Your partner has his or her own emotions. You can influence another person’s feelings, but ultimately that person is responsible for them.
13. But you can control how you respond.
You can choose to react in ways that honor yourself, hold boundaries, and communicate your needs.
14. Believe that your worth is not in question.
Your value as an individual is not diminished one bit because someone seems to be losing interest.
15. Be prepared to move on.
If your partner truly is losing interest, decide what it best for you and your future. You know there are lots of people who will take a big interest in you.
16. Just be yourself.
You have to expect either good news or bad will come out from the final discovering of losing of interest. once you get a bad news be yourself and smile just know that someone out there will appreciate you more than the former. But where by its a news of things bordering them suggest a sincere solution but make them to have a decision to decide if to accept or not.